Weddings can be a stressful and expensive ordeal. Occasionally, the thrill is taken out your wedding because of the wrong kind of stress (is there a “right” kind) and too little thought for the important parts of the day.
Simplicity is the key, when you are trying to create a memory that you want to keep. It can even be harder to create a simple wedding, on a budget. Here are some tips:
First: remember why you are getting married in front of your friends and family. This isn’t for them and it isn’t a show. It is to share the most important decision of your life and the promises that you’re making, with them.
Second: write down a list of the your specific fears of the day (tripping on your dress, not knowing how to dance, Aunt Bea getting drunk, running out of food, having the DJ play the “electric slide”) and figure out ways to avoid your greatest fears (shorten your dress, take dance lessons in your wedding shoes, give Aunt Bea a chaperone, cushion your menu for hungrier guests, and tell the DJ exactly what to play).
Third: choose just two things that you must do to make your wedding unique and special. I have enjoyed these ideas, at weddings, recently:
- Have real butterflies released as you leave the church, creating a real fairy tale effect.
- Sing a love song to your new partner, with a microphone and all the guests looking on.
- Use a digital camera and printer and a scrap book at the guest-book station. Encourage each guest to sign and decorate their own page in the guest book, with all sorts of pens and stickers.
- Create a special photograph, unique to you and your wedding party. Plan the pose and theme, ahead of time, as a special keepsake for everyone in the party.
- A Photo Booth with props and costuming, unique to the theme. The photo will be imprinted with the your name and wedding date.
- Have a corsage or boutonniere made for each guest and present it to them as they make their way down the receiving line. This gives you special time, with each guest, as man and wife.
- Only kiss when someone stands up and tells a story about one of you or about the two of you.
- Have two small detachable floral arrangements, as part of your bouquet. When your father gives you away, you detach the first and he gives it to your mother. After the vows, and you walk back down the isle, detach the second arrangement and present it to your new mother-in-law.
- Ask your married wedding guests to bring a framed wedding photo of their own wedding. Have the table filled with these frames at the guest-book table.
- Have the videographer present each table with a small card that helps them come up with tips, advice, or romantic ideas to present at the beginning of the reception. Then have each table videoed, after they’ve had time to come up with a personal message.
- Have each guest come up with one word or phrase that describes each of you. Then, rather than putting people on the spot toasting you, each person will call out their words that describe the bride and then the groom, in separate toast (Tip: make sure you have this videoed, or you’ll forget everything that was said about you!)
As a final thought, let’s discuss the biggest expense, at your wedding: the food and alcohol. Many marriages are just celebrated with cake and champagne, these days, to reduce costs. That is not necessary the only way to reduce costs. You can still create a special atmosphere without breaking the bank or skipping the meal. Have one beverage (besides the water) available, in pitchers. Leave several coffee flavors and whipped cream at the coffee station. Have a champagne fountain or a frozen slushy machine with a special alcohol beverage (margarita, banana daiquiri, coffee frappe) as your beverage (believe it or not this is cheaper than offering wine/beer). As far as food is concerned, the less choices that you have, the less the costs. So limit choices on the food and skip the buffet or the sit down meal. In fact, we would recommend two crèpe stations. One for the savory crepe and one for the sweet. Our crèpe sleeves even eliminate the need for dinner plates or seating charts. The wedding cake? Who needs one when you have Nutella and Banana crèpes! Request a proposal by filling out our Catering Form: http://www.calcno.eventintelligence.com/quote/